Meet my hubby, Chuck! My other half!
So I have written lots about the boys, toys we enjoy and even my shoes- but I must now dedicate a post to the man I love. The yin to my yang, my rock and the one who keeps me sane. As I write this he is back at the office after a full day, stopping home briefly for dinner and some playtime with the boys.
How did we get here
Chuck and I met in 2000, we worked together at the company he still works for today. We were both 23 years old and new to our city. His family was two hours away, mine 24+ hours. We moved in right away and dated for just over a year and a half, when he proposed. We had our wedding/honeymoon in Gatlinburg TN in 2003. It was amazing. Also amazing was we still got married after being in a car for 13 hours, horrendous car troubles and our overall backgrounds being so different! He grew up catholic and very well behaved. To put it mildly, I did not. He is very practical, fiscally responsible and easy going. I am often sporadic, emotional and a definite extrovert. He was like no one I had ever dated- which was exactly why I knew I wanted to marry him.
Our life today
Chuck works 45+ hours as a graphics arts manager and also free-lances as an artist for his brother’s company. The second job, often takes up several hours in the evenings and weekend. He does all of this so that I can be home with our boys full-time. Giving up my salary took time, practice and is not without financial struggles. We can’t always take a vacation or drive a fancy cars- but the trade off for family time, has been worth it. He is a fantastic partner, father and provided.
Ok well before I make him sound too perfect he does leave clothes all around the bedroom- sometimes near the laundry basket and an occasion (a still wet towel) on my side of the bed (grrr). But I can live with it (or try to deal with it), because those “little nuisances” are trivial in comparison to the husband/father he has become. And really, who am I kidding….I can be very dramatic, moody and I am not sure I could live with me some days.
This year, in September we celebrate 10 years of marriage. Not all “perfect” or “easy” years, but we are stronger now than ever before because of those lessons learned.
The week prior (to our anniversary) he will be attending an out-of-state sales conference and leaving the boys for the first time, for several days. Tonight, when I put our three year old to bed, he was VERY upset his dad was not home. We had a long talk, some tears and lots of cuddles. I do, already worry about what that week will be like. I expect a huge anniversary gift this year Just kidding.
We have developed certain parenting characteristics- he is WAY better at play-time. And I am ok with this, since he works so much the hubby deserves playtime. I am the nurturer and the task manager.
We have also unofficially designated chores. His are primarily the outdoors (mowing/shoveling/trash) and mine the housework (laundry, cooking, cleaning). That is not to say he doesn’t occasionally fold the laundry or that I won’t voluntarily trim/edge the lawn. But with the limited time we do have together- we divide and conquer, in an effort to just get it done right. For example, he mows the lawn with precision and efficiency. I can barely start the mower and would not have the lawn “lines” looking quite so artful. IF he cooks, he is grilling or making pizza. If he did the laundry, all of the time?..well lets just say “chaos” in the closets. In marriage, career, parenting and even as far as “domestic skills” are concerned, we compliment the others strengths and weaknesses.
Do you and your partner have designated chores? Or is first come, first serve?