The personal world of blogging, how to not to take it “too personally”
Last week, I got a rejection e-mail to a pitch. This should not have been a big deal. With every “no”, I receive equal good news (like a new conference sponsor). But this particular day, and the way the rejection read. It hit me hard. It made me sad. Every night, as many of you do- I blog, (or blog hop, network, attend a Twitter parties, study latest trends or try to figure out why something isn’t working). In fact, lately I haven’t gotten to write much. All day long, posts swim through my mind, but with two boys under three years, the most I can do is respond on Facebook mobile. Writing, for me, has to wait until after 8 or later.
I am naturally a sensitive gal, who needs organization. Blogging is often difficult, since I am not a niche writer, my posts tend to be personal. I involve my boys, my world, my inspiration. It has ended my long running love affair with Days of our Lives and most PM TV time with hubby- because I cannot concentrate with the background competition. Any free moment has become my blogging time. On any given night, I blog in to the late hours. I no longer spend much time on Facebook for personal visits. Now it is aimed at forming new connections and promotions- and hoping to close it out quickly. lol….And then, I invite the world in to visit, comment and critique. Is it worth it? Yes.
It has been a creative outlet, a personal project for mommy and goals are set. It keeps me craving knowledge, for more.
This all being said, I cannot change my lifelong tendency for sensitivity. I seek new ways to get organized. But there are a couple suggestions I had for picking yourself up from a bad blogging day.
- Keep a success file. I always kept letters of recommendations and any certificates of achievements. Very recently, I received two e-mails from brands that were so very touching and appreciated. I printed them out and on the worst days, I read them.
- Make “friends”. I am new to blogging, but by joining communities, blog hops and co-hosting events I have gotten to know some bloggers better. My hubby may not understand the ins and outs completely, but these folks do.
- Comments. Some comments and followers just warm my heart and make it all worthwhile. Bottom line making these connections is the point of blogging, isn’t it? I am sure monetizing is primary to some. For me, if I am inviting you in to my world, I want to be a good host.
- Change your focus. I spent a lot of time in the last few weeks on promotion. After some thought, I am going to organize my calendar and focus on more writing and content. I want to not only build relationships with brands, but build relationships with readers too. I want them to know me and my family not just be a number. Be patient, with hard work and ethical practices those numbers will happen!
- Take a day (or weekend) off. Sometimes you need to step away. Take a break. Find your focus again. Later. Have a glass of wine or just enjoy some family time.
- Keep a task and action list in your calendar. this is good not only to keep you organized, but to look back at. Focus on past accomplishment and look at how far you’ve come.
- Let it motivate you. In my case the representative gave me specific benchmarks. Although, when I read them, I knew I was not yet close. Once I reach those “numbers” will feel all that much sweeter.
Rejection is part of the blogging world. The above tips are helping me get through some of those “days”.