5 Reasons Toddlers Might THINK You Will Leave Them Behind #TrueTales

♥This brilliant post was written by the ALWAYS fabulous & fun supermom Melissa from Home on the Deranged♥

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Welcome back to Thursday,Its time for the True Tales from the Pink & Blue Trenches series. We’re going to change things up here at True Tales, as we begin to focus on the good, the bad, and the ugly side of parenting. With two toddlers each, we are both “newbies” on this journey, and we’re going to chronicle it for you as we go, learning, loving and laughing.

This week, it’s Melissa from Home on Deranged, and she is discussing something today that she’s been pondering for a few weeks. Why have our children suddenly started saying, “Wait for Me!” or “Don’t leave me!”? They’ve never once been left anywhere. If anything, they leave HER behind on a regular basis. They’ve never even been the last kids picked up from daycare. After some thought, She thinks she might have the answers.

Here’s 5 reasons toddlers think you’re going to leave them behind.

5 reasons toddlers think you're going to leave them behind - The Pink & Blue Series on Home on Deranged & The Noise of Boys

Within the last few months, our kids have started using some strange phrases, over and over. Things like, “Don’t leave without me, Mommy!” or, “Wait for me, guys!”, or – upon hearing their dad start the car – “Don’t leave without us, Daddy!”

Now, I’m not one to leave people behind. I mean, I’m still friends with kids I knew before I even started school. And I’m certainly not one to leave my own kid behind. We barely ever go out without our kids. In fact, when we recently went to a concert at a venue 2 hours north of us, my sister graciously agreed to go with us and stayed with the girls at a hotel room while we were gone. Seriously.

So it got me to thinking, where in the world do toddlers get these notions? And I decided to compile a list. Utterly unscientific.

5 reasons toddlers think you’re going to leave them behind

  1. They can’t drive. Now, I know what you’re thinking: we’ve all seen the movies where kids use a variety of tools to push the gas pedal and steer and get where they want to go. Yeah, well, our smaller-than-average girls can’t step up into the car without help, much less have long enough arms to use a bat to keep the pedal pushed down. No, I think it’s more about the fact that once you take off in a car, it’s pretty darned hard to catch someone who’s already in it.
  2. Stupid TV. How many times have I seen a show where one of the characters gets left behind, whether on purpose or on accident? It may seem funny to us, but to a pint-sized person, this is a big deal. How the heck am I supposed to keep up with Big Bird if he outpaces me by 20 feet? Not that I walk faster than our girls. In fact, most of the time, when I do chase them, they always get ahead of me. Maybe I should be saying, “Wait for me!”
  3. Daycare/preschool/school. Well, okay, they might be right on this one. How do they know you’re coming back? No one wants to be the last kid picked up from school. Isn’t that what sweet little Annie says to her dad, Jack, in Family Man?
  4. You might occasionally mention that you’re going to leave them behind. Okay, okay, I know I’m not going to win any parenting awards up in here. But I might have said a time or two, “Do you want to just stay here by yourself while we all go eat pizza?” or something like, “Are you going to sit here alone while we go outside and have fun in the pool?” No, I’ve never followed through on the threat. But I get that they think there’s a slim chance I might.
  5. Even if they’re checking out merchandise at the store, you continue walking. Do your kids like to linger over clothes, glasses, toys, books, pillows, anything on the endcap at Target? Our girls will touch everything. I mean, they have to physically put their hand on it, even if they don’t want it. It takes 20 minutes to make it down the main aisle. So, now that they are older, I just keep walking. Not fast and pretty much within 2 steps of them (I’m too helicopter-momish to go farther), but from their vantage point, it’s huge.

You should know, outside of daycare, relatives, church nursery or the trusted babysitter, I never leave our kids behind. But it occurs to me that those few spots are kind of terrifying. Heck, the 3 year old threw a fit when I locked the bathroom door last week. One freaking time in her life. But no access means you’ve left. Even if she can carry on a conversation with you through the door. Come to think of it, her dad does that, too. Maybe I need a new list….

How is it at your house? Did you child – or is your child – going through the same kind of thing? Do they need reassurance you won’t be leaving them behind? Share your thoughts/tips/advice with me in the comments!

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Clash of the Couples- NOW REVEALING a PEEK at the OFFICIAL COVER!

Dear readers and friends!

I am beyond excited to share this with you! Below is a glimspe at the OFFICAL COVER for the upcoming Clash of the Couples book, which i am so proud to say, I am a featured in! Below you will also find a brief intro of the various relationship topics covered!  This is much different than my typical parenting based writing BUT I know you will LOVE it!

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Coupledom. Fact or fable, Adam and Eve birthed the perpetual relationship drama as seen on TV today. Despite the serpents, this couple HAD IT MADE. Luxury real estate, lush gardens, and privacy out the yin-yang. Life was glorious until the bare-bottomed babe could no longer resist temptation. Despite her better half’s warnings and threats to sleep in a tree, she tasted the forbidden fruit. One bite of that seductive, juicy contraband and the stage was set for eternity— a nibble that has blossomed into an endless supply of tiny tidbits that divide lovers to this day!

Taking a cue from the naked explorers of authentic sin, Clash of the Couples is a new anthology featuring a collection of completely absurd lovers’ squabbles and relationship spats. Think couples fight over kids, sex, and money? Think again! Furniture, the last beer, and where to store the placenta are what genuinely ignite our feuds. And no argument is off limits.

This book has it all!

Inside you’ll find a gut-busting compilation of stories such as: “I Can’t Believe You Ate My Sandwich,” “Never Assume Anything,” “Only I Can Talk About Me,” and “You Want Some College Boobs?” from forty-three fearless writers. Prepare to laugh, roll your eyes, and shiver in suspense. While Eve may have had the first bite, we ate the whole tree. And made pies.

Published by Blue Lobster Book Co.,Clash of the Couples launches loudly and obnoxiously on November 3, 2014. You’ll hear us coming, but look for it on Amazon, B&N, Apple, and other places where you typically buy books. For instant updates, follow along on Facebook!

The lineup includes:

Andrew S. Delfino of Almost Coherent Parent

Crystal Ponti of MommiFried

Camille DeFer Thompson of Camille DeFer Thompson

Kimberly Morand of Anchor Magazine: Navigating Depression, Bipolar, and Anxiety

Meredith Napolitano of From Meredith to Mommy

Chris Dean of pixie.c.d.

Linda Roy of elleroy was here

Kevin Zelenka of Double Trouble Daddy

Sarah Cottrell of Housewife Plus

R.C. Liley of Going Dad

Mary Widdicks of Outmanned

Marie Bollman of Make Your Own Damn Dinner

Ginny Marie of Lemon Drop Pie

Mike Reynolds of Puzzling Posts

Leigh-Mary Hoffmann of Happily Ever Laughter Blog

Lisa Petty of Lisa R. Petty

Lynn Shattuck of The Light Will Find You

Jeff Bogle of Out With The Kids

Stacey Gustafson of Are You Kidding Me?

Angela Godbout of FRaPS

Courtney Conover of The Brown Girl with Long Hair

Jenny Hills of Express Bus Mama

Marcia Kester Doyle of Menopausal Mother

Julia Arnold of Frantic Mama

Jessica Azar of Herd Management

Susan A. Black of I Like That

Dave Lesser of Amateur Idiot Professional Dad

Sarah del Rio of est. 1975

Nicole R. Wildhood of Naught Be All Else

Angela Keck of Writer Mom’s Blog

Alexa Bigwarfe of No Holding Back

Brian Sorrell of Dadding Full Time

Kathryn Leehane of Foxy Wine Pocket

April Grant of 100lb Countdown

Bev Feldman of Linkouture

Jodi Flaherty of The Noise of Boys

Scott Rigdon of Three Five Zero

Lydia Richmond of Cluttered Genius

Allie Burdick of VITA – Train for Life

Michelle Grewe of Crumpets and Bollocks

Barb Godshalk of Co-Author of Tall Tales and Short Stories from South Jersey

Jonathon Floyd of One Funny Daddy

Amanda Mushro of Questionable Choices in Parenting

Chris Carter of The Mom Cafe

Unveiling the Influenster Vitality VoxBox #VitaVoxBox


* note the following products were sent complimentary for the purposes of facilitating a review of the Influenster Vitality VoxBox.  No monetary compensation was received. All opinions are my own and based on my experiences.

Influenster Vitality Voxbox


First Degree® Advanced Burn Cream: $5.97-$8.99 #BurnsHappen

We are lucky not to have had to utilize this product, but I did rub some on to my skin and it is burns flight and non-greasy.  With two active boys it is definitely a must-have for the medicine cabinet!

Use for burns from cooking, grilling even razor burn!


Playtex® Sport® Fresh Balance™: $3.99 #PlayOn

These did come in handy, and worked well.  Priced competitively I would re-buy!

NEW 360º design and odor shield protection


Elizabeth Arden FLAWLESS FUTURE Powered by Ceramide™Caplet Serum: $60.00 for 1. oz. #FlawlessFuture

I passed this along to my sister to try (due to my conflict with some ingredients).  Her feedback was mixed.  She felt the product worked, but had a residual feel (described as sticky).  In the end she would probably not re-buy because of price per ounce being so high in comparison to her organic Joy & Karma vitamin C serum boasting the same results at a third of the cost.

Suspended mini bead caplet formula that activates when dispensed- marketed to even skin tone and hydrate.


Pure Leaf Iced Tea #loveofleaves

I loved this!  I am a coffee gal, but this was a treat! It was my favorite item in the Influenster Vitality VoxBox!  No high fructose corn syrup!  Win!  Only ingredients tea and citric acid (food preservative).


Softlips® Cube: $3.49 #GetCubed

I did try this item.  As described my lips were softer.  I will keep in medicine cabinet and use as an occasional treatment for excessive chapped lips, as if it were a medicine.  The reason.  Dimethicone.  My preference for daily use of dry lips will remain organic beeswax chapstick.

Marketed to soften, smooth and available in Pomegranate Blueberry, Fresh Mint and Vanilla Bean


Bikini Ready Energy Gummies: $14.99 #BikiniReadyLifestyle

I did not use this product.  I am a smaller woman and my preference if for a daily juiced lunch and multivitamin over a metabolism booster.

B-12 daily supplement said to boost metabolism and increase energy.


Henry’s toddler solutions to everyday problems. #TopTenGuide #TrueTales

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And then, there was one.

Yep, Hayden is back in school. After providing daycare for an infant most of the summer- Henry and I, are getting some quality one on one time.  Or drive mama batty time.  He is the polar opposite of Hayden. I can throw anything I learned parenting my 1st child “out the window.” He is a wild, funny BUT quiet kid.  Yep he’s two. A tantrum prone and bordering on bi-polar toddler. One might think one kid would be easy, after a summer of caring for three kids. But no.  Henry is living it up and loving life. And even though the temperature dropped, he is why I am still sweating.

Sneaky, Smart and Silent

He has only recently started talking but apparently knows his alphabet and numbers already because he SHOWED us. Seriously? I can’t help but laugh. I can’t take credit for this bit of academics. In his years of silence, he just listened and observed ALOT, i guess. This is problematic. He really keeps me on my toes. Last week, he sat down and rented himself Spiderman on OnDemand and yesterday unscrewed light bulbs from my lamps (trust me, I am never far from him- he is just that quick, in that much trouble and ninja-like quiet.)

So after I experienced a really sh*^%y morning battling a basement issues and painful night of TRX ( am I really paying for this torture with suspended straps?)  I decided… I would like to be two again. I would like to just be able to solve my problems like a toddler and feel satisfied with my decisions.
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Henry’s Top 10 guide to being a successful toddler & problem solving.

1. Don’t like the food? Just throw it on floor. Then, move to brother’s seat and take his food.   There is a person called “mum” who cleans this place. Problem solved.

2 Bored? Pull ALL stickers out of Lego Movie Collector’s Book and stick in various places around house. It really accentuates the freshly painted walls.  Problem solved

3. Bored, while in car? Smuggle in a pen, draw all over yourself, and then break, said pen. Ink is fun. Problem solved.

4. Diaper irritating you after nap-time?  Just remove and pee all over mattress and wall.  Problem solved.

5. Hmmmmm… what to do outside? I’ve mastered this play-set stuff months ago. Let’s add rocks to car rims and down window wells.  When this “mum” lady runs towards me…whip a rock at her. Problem solved.

6.  Grocery shopping.  GRRRR. Being strapped in this cart sucks and everyone should suffer my wrath. I will scream and spit-for a full hour. These big people will comfort me and give me cheese. Problem solved.

7.  Diaper changes take too long….but this pee pee thingy is great….I must touch it. Problem solved.

8. These wipes are just too wet….They must all be removed (works just like those tissues in the silly boxes)  one-by-one, so they dry.I will scatter them all around the house.  Problem solved.

9.  Gate-Schmate….I can scale this. Problem solved.

10. Brother makes you made? Punch him in the face. Or bite. It works. Problem solved.


I could go on and on- It could be a weekly column.  Or vlog series.  I think once Henry begins to talk more he might actually have a Stewie from Family Guy accent.  However after the bad day I had as an adult, I think I would trade places. At least today I would have, because despite all his craziness, he is one happy, funny, adventure-seeking and creative kid.  Well,that is when he is not throwing a tantrum.

What was the craziest or funniest thing your toddler did? Share with us! We’d ♥ to laugh with you!

Oh and….

Next week, Melissa from Home on Deranged my partner in #TrueTales blogging will be back!

PLUS! stay tuned for the #ClashoftheCouples cover reveal on September 17th

PLUS! Upcoming review and giveaway for Monster Box AND the NEW Alpha & Omega DVD! 


LeapFrog Letter Factory Adventures Counting on Lemonade DVD review & giveaway

*we received a complimentary copy of LeapFrog Letter Factory Adventures- Counting on Lemonade DVD to facilitate this honest review. All information is based on our personal experience. No monetary compensation was received.

Hayden was definitely thrilled to participate in this review! He loves anytime he can spend in front of a TV.  As a mom, it is important to me that the screen time we do utilize offers some value!  The boys have a DVD player with dual screens in the car and as soon as we load up-they want me to turn those little screens on!

After the DVD arrived and our dinner had ended, I made some popcorn and (as a family) we sat down to watch.  I have to say, even I found the 35 minutes fun! The lessons were repetitive, challenging and paired with songs.  The best part, the tunes were “catchy” but I wasn’t still singing them the next day! Suggested for preschoolers and up- I have noticed that even my two year-old tries to answer Leap, Tad & Lily’s questions! Oh and Burfder…Well, he is the the most loved character, for sure!

I know my boys will absolutely be looking for the next Leap Frog Letter Factory Adventures DVD!
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Description of LeapFrog Letter Factory Adventures-Counting on Lemonade:

Tad, Lily, Leap and friends stir up lots of learning fun when they decide to sell lemonade and use their earnings to buy new books for the library. With the help of Cousin Toad, Matilda, Quigley and Burfder, the twins apply their new skills in counting, addition and subtraction to their new venture of making the most delicious lemonade ever!

Teaching early math skills and problem solving for preschoolers to first graders, LeapFrog Letter Factory Adventures: Counting On Lemonade focuses on counting to 20, addition and subtraction, and features three all-new original learning songs, plus curriculum commentary for parents. Timed to back-to-school season and the release of new Letter Factory Adventures LeapFrog products, The Letter Factory Adventures: Counting On Lemonade DVD will be available for the suggested retail price of $14.98.

• Counting to 20
• Addition
• Subtraction

• Sing-a-long Videos
• Curriculum Commentary for Parents

AVAILABLE on DVD (plus Digital), Digital HD, Video On Demand and Pay-Per-View September 9th


From left to right: “Cousin Toad” (left) and “Tad” (right) in Lionsgate Home Entetrainment’s LEAPFROG LETTER FACTORY ADVENTURES: COUNTING ON LEMONADE.


From left to right: “Leap” (left), “Lily” (center) and “Tad” (right) in Lionsgate Home Entetrainment’s LEAPFROG LETTER FACTORY ADVENTURES: COUNTING ON LEMONADE.

"Quigley" (left) and "Leap" (right) in Lionsgate Home Entetrainment's LEAPFROG LETTER FACTORY ADVENTURES: COUNTING ON LEMONADE.

“Quigley” (left) and “Leap” (right) in Lionsgate Home Entetrainment’s LEAPFROG LETTER FACTORY ADVENTURES: COUNTING ON LEMONADE.

Enjoy the official trailer for LeapFrog Letter Factory Adventures-Counting on Lemonade

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