It’s Thursday, time for the latest edition of The True Tales from the Pink & Blue Trenches hosted by Home on Deranged and The noise of boys discussing the good, bad and comical parts of toddler-hood- girl vs boy fashion. This week, it’s the “blue side” featuring the stories inspired by my toddler boys! Next week, we discuss the same topic but from the “pink side” via gorgeous gals from Home on Deranged!
Without Further Ado- Let’s talk toddler tantrums.
As defined by dictionary.com
Hayden is nearing the end of tantrums, somewhat. It isn’t that he doesn’t have them, but because of his expanded vocabulary we often have emotional discussions. Sometimes they make no sense, but whatever. He might get very frustrated that I put ketchup in the spot where ranch should have gone or that his pillow is facing the wrong direction. Okay, I can handle most of these situations. Time alone to calm himself, followed up by a discussion, usually is the best method for us. He is a very emotional kid. I am a very emotional person. We are working through this and I definitely see progress….AHHHH….The year of troublesome three’s were manageable compared to the terrible two’s! Henry, Oh Henry…. Where to begin??? Deep breath. Okay the positive. He is shy and rarely acts out in public. Anyone who meets him simply cannot believe he is any trouble. Yeah….let me tell you IT IS ALWAYS THE QUIET ONES. He is three months shy of his second birthday . His speech is a bit delayed (I plan to discuss with his physician at his doctor appointment). We are actively working on his language skills daily and use basic sign language in a few situations. I am around him enough, that we can successfully communicate in some instances. He is very, very intelligent, he just won’t talk. I have heard him use a few words and several sounds, so I know he can. I sometimes think he is choosing NOT to speak. He is a 2nd child and has learned a lot from watching big brother. Too much in the tantrum arena. I should have known from pregnancy. He seemed like an angry fetus on the inside, lol. I was always hurting in multiple areas. He was just all around rough boy beginning in utero. In infancy, he refused to sleep through the night until 9 months! He has always taken shorter naps and never ever wakes up happy, cooing or playing in his crib. It is sleeping…. then BAM screaming. Get me out, give me milk and hold me. Do not deviate, woman.
Now that we are nearing the terrible two’s, I am really at a loss with his tantrums. I understand it stems from frustration of not being able to talk, but he is downright violent (mostly to himself). Head butting walls, throwing things, hitting objects, rolling on floor while head butting…etc. If there was an Olympic sport of tantrum fits, he is going for the GOLD.
Lord help us all, if Henry is upset with big brother. Then it is angry, violent toddler wailing on a crying preschooler. I have tried all of the following. Sometimes in combination.
- Ignoring it….
- I tried removing items (when he did get the toy back, he threw it away)
- Applying gentle pressure to hands and eye contact. He will roll his eyes or try to stare at the ceiling. It is the craziest thing. I absolutely blame big brother on this one.
- Time-outs? Does not even phase him.
- Quiet time….yeah…. I am not leaving him alone in a room, even in a crib, when he is angry (he is a super climber)
Mostly I just stare baffled. Have you seen the YouTube video of the toddler that is crazy, inconsolable every time his mom is in view? Yeah it’s like that, only physical. I am actually glad he isn’t in daycare, because I can’t imagine the incident reports. Actually, I envision it would go like this….
♦ Dear Ms. X,
Today we had an incident with Henry after he grew frustrated with a stuffed animal. The bruise on his head is from head banging a nearby puzzle. The stuffed animal was then ripped apart and thrown away by your son. Unfortunately he then bit a nearby teacher who attempted to comfort him. He then screamed wildly for about 45 minutes. Though, no other children were harmed, we will be charging your account for the toy and wish you luck. ♦
I just pray this toddler phase will pass quickly and improves with his eventual speech development.
I really thought dealing with a dramatic, sensitive toddler was difficult at times! However, this little man’s sporadic anger spells, often leaves me perplexed. Especially combined with Henry’s unbelievable strength and agility. I admit (and this wasn’t due to a tantrum) that once his father had to pry him from my hair- because I was truly overpowered. Is there an anger management program for toddlers? Maybe there should be.♥
Have you witnessed your share of toddler tantrums? Any tips to pass along? Please? Maybe a funny story to share? I definitely could use a laugh on this subject!
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